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Building a Dad
Hebrews 3:4

       I read this recently - Reasons Why It Is Good to Be a Man. I won’t read all of them but I did put together my own top-10 list:
10.     A 5 day vacation requires only one suitcase and the laptop
9.     You can go to the bathroom without a support group.
8.     If someone forgets to invite you to something he can still be your friend.
7.     You can drop by to see a friend without bringing a little gift.
6.     You don’t have to go to a specialty store to buy your underwear and it only costs $8.95 for a three pack
5.     One wallet and no purse to lug around.
4.     There is always a game on somewhere. You can quietly watch a game without talking and no your buddy is not mad at you.  
3.     Your pals can be trusted never to trap you with, “So…notice anything different?”
2.     If something mechanical doesn’t work, you can bash it with a hammer…
1.     You carry a pocket knife that can do your nails, cut open a package and it has a    toothpick and a screwdriver. That’s why we don’t carry purses.

I guess I ought to be a little serious today – it is Father’s Day. It was good that I was able to spend time with my dad this past week.  On the 23rd my Dad will turn 93 years old.  What a privilege that I have in having my father still here.  My niece asked last Sunday when we all were having a family dinner – who are heroes are.  My hero is my dad.  He taught us so many life lessons – and still does.  And one of those life lessons have to do with building.  He passed on to us that generally speaking there are 2 types of people: those that build and those that tear down.  Probably the greatest building we do is in regard to people. We are all builders - sometimes it is a positive build; other times we have a negative build.

WHAT ABOUT YOU? What type of build are you building?  Do you realize that you, too, are a builder of people? It might be your children, your grandchildren but it might also be someone else’s children and other adults and young people. What type of build are you building?  ARE YOU A POSITIVE CHRISTIAN BUILDER!

Hebrews 3:4 (NIV) 4 For every house is built by someone, but God is the builder of everything.

For Father’s Day I would like to share a few thoughts about building a father. If I could build a dad he would be a disciple of Christ. So I would like to build a foundation for you of a Christian dad – this can apply to all our lives.


ILLUSTRATION – One of my father’s favorite story is about a Spanish father and son who had become estranged. The son ran away, and the father set off to find him. He searched for months to no avail. Finally, in a last desperate effort to find him, the father put an ad in a Madrid newspaper. The ad read: “Dear Paco, meet me in front of this newspaper office at noon on Saturday. All is forgiven. I love you. Your Father.” On Saturday 800 Pacos showed up, looking for forgiveness and love from their fathers.

Illustration - I ran into a friend of mine that I grew up with a number of years ago and as we reminisced about our childhood and teen years it was interesting to hear his reflections one of the things that was so important in his memory was our Friday night basketball games at our house.  He remembered my dad coming out and playing basketball – we would gather in the back of the house and pick sides.  The kid who had the first pick always wanted my dad. He could burry 30 foot set shots and he would scream in your ear just as you were about to shoot.  But Gary then added “what was neat was all of us piling into your dad’s car and he drive us down for Baskin Robbins ice cream parlor and he treated as long as it wasn’t vanilla, chocolate or strawberry.  He wanted us to have weird combinations.”  The neat thing Gary said was – “I always felt your dad and mom loved me.”

ILLUSTRATION - With a timid voice and idolizing eyes, the little boy greeted his father as he returned from work, "Daddy, how much do you make an hour?"
Greatly surprised, but giving his boy a glaring look, the father said: "Look, son, not even your mother knows that. Don’t bother me now, I’m tired."
"But Daddy, just tell me please, how much do you make an hour," the boy insisted. The father finally giving up replied: " Twenty dollars per hour." "Okay, Daddy, could you loan me ten dollars?" the boy asked.
Showing restlessness and positively disturbed, the father yelled: "So that was the reason you asked how much I earn, right! Go to sleep and don’t bother me anymore!"
It was already dark and the father was meditating on what he had said and was feeling guilty. Maybe he thought, his son wanted to buy something. Finally, trying to ease his mind, the father went to his son’s room.
"Are you asleep son?" asked the father. "No, Daddy. Why?" replied the boy partially asleep. "Here’s the money you asked for earlier," the father said. "Thanks, Daddy!" rejoiced the son, while putting his hand under his pillow and removing some money. "Now I have enough! Now I have twenty dollars!" the boy said to his father, who was gazing at his son, confused at what his son just said. "Daddy could you sell me one hour of your time?"

If I could build a father I would build me with more godliness!
If I could build a father I would build me with more patience!
If I could build a father I would build me with more love!

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